You're Not a Bad Couple. You're Stuck in a Pattern.
Specialized virtual couples therapy for adults who want to stop repeating the same cycle and start actually feeling like a team again.
Most couples don't come to therapy because they've stopped loving each other. They come because the same argument keeps happening. Because one person shuts down and the other escalates. Because something that used to feel easy now feels exhausting. Because the distance between you has been growing quietly for a while and neither of you knows how to close it. You might be navigating conflict that never fully resolves. Or a relationship that feels more like a roommate situation than a partnership. Or the slow erosion that happens when OCD, ADHD, or an eating disorder enters the relationship and neither of you got a manual for how to handle it together. Whatever brought you here — the fact that you're looking means something. Most couples wait too long. You don't have to.
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You Might Recognize Your Relationship in Some of These
The same argument on repeat, different topic every time but the same underlying dynamic
One partner pursues, the other withdraws — and both feel alone in it
Communication that starts calm and ends in shutdown or explosion
Emotional distance that's grown so gradually you're not sure when it started
Resentment that's building faster than repair
OCD or ROCD creating doubt, reassurance cycles, or relationship anxiety
ADHD showing up as forgetfulness, dysregulation, or emotional intensity that strains the relationship
An eating disorder affecting intimacy, shared meals, body image conversations, or one partner's helplessness watching the other struggle
Trust that's been damaged and needs rebuilding
A relationship that works on paper but doesn't feel connected in practice
Major life transitions — relocation, career changes, identity shifts — pulling you in different directions
Relationship OCD (ROCD) is one of the most painful and least understood dynamics that can show up in a partnership. It's not ordinary relationship doubt — it's an OCD cycle that targets the relationship itself. One or both partners may experience relentless questioning about whether the relationship is right, whether the love is real, whether the attraction is sufficient, or whether they've made the wrong choice. The partner on the receiving end often feels like nothing they say is ever reassuring enough — because it isn't, not because the relationship isn't good, but because reassurance feeds the OCD cycle rather than resolving it. ROCD responds well to treatment — but it requires a therapist who understands both OCD and couples dynamics simultaneously. I work with individuals navigating ROCD and with couples where ROCD is part of the relational picture.
When the Doubt Lives Inside the Relationship: ROCD
Relationships don't exist in isolation from the mental health conditions each partner brings into them. And yet most couples therapy ignores those conditions entirely — or treats them as background noise rather than central to the relational dynamic. I specialize in working with couples where one or both partners are navigating OCD, ADHD, or an eating disorder. That specialization matters because:
OCD in relationships creates reassurance cycles, avoidance patterns, and emotional burden that require specific understanding to address without accidentally reinforcing the OCD
ADHD in relationships shows up as perceived carelessness, emotional dysregulation, rejection sensitivity, and chronic imbalance that can quietly build resentment on both sides
Eating disorders in relationships affect intimacy, shared meals, body image conversations, and create a particular kind of helplessness in the partner who loves someone and doesn't know how to help
When both partners understand what they're actually navigating — not just "we argue a lot" but the specific neurological and psychological mechanisms underneath — everything changes.
When OCD, ADHD, or an Eating Disorder Is Part of Your Relationship
An Integrated Approach to Couples Work
What Couples Therapy With Me Actually Looks Like
Need Faster Results? The Conflict Detox™ Intensive
Common Questions About Couples Therapy
I draw primarily from Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), DBT, and ACT in my couples work — three approaches that complement each other well and address the emotional, behavioral, and values-based dimensions of relationship dynamics.
EFT (Emotionally Focused Therapy) — identifying and restructuring the negative interaction cycles that keep couples stuck; rebuilding emotional safety and secure attachment between partners
DBT skills — practical tools for emotional regulation, distress tolerance, and interpersonal effectiveness in the moments when the cycle is hardest to break
ACT (Acceptance and Commitment Therapy) — clarifying shared values, reducing experiential avoidance within the relationship, and building psychological flexibility together
My style is warm, structured, and direct. I'll name what I'm seeing in the room. I'll hold both partners with equal care while being honest about the patterns maintaining the cycle. Couples often tell me sessions feel productive in a way previous therapy didn't — because we move, and because I don't let the session become a facilitated argument.
A thorough intake process — I meet with the couple together and sometimes individually to understand each partner's experience, history, and goals before treatment begins
Mapping the cycle — we identify the specific negative interaction pattern you keep getting pulled into and what's driving it underneath the surface
Emotion-focused work — accessing and expressing the deeper emotions beneath the reactive ones; rebuilding emotional safety and responsiveness between partners
Skill building — practical DBT and ACT tools for the moments when the cycle pulls hardest
Values and vision work — clarifying what you both want the relationship to be and building intentionally toward that
Progress tracking — I use validated measures to track relationship satisfaction and dynamics over time so we can both see what's shifting
For couples who want to accelerate their progress or who are navigating a specific crisis point, I offer The Conflict Detox™ Intensive — a concentrated, structured format designed to create meaningful shift in a compressed timeframe. If weekly sessions feel too slow for where you are right now, the intensive format may be the right fit.
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Yes — couples therapy requires both partners to participate. That said, one partner is often more hesitant than the other at the start and that's completely normal. If your partner is on the fence, reaching out for a consultation is still a good first step.
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Couples therapy that isn't specialized or structured often doesn't create lasting change — it can feel like a facilitated argument without real forward momentum. My approach is active, pattern-focused, and draws on evidence-based methods. If previous therapy felt unproductive, this may feel different.
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Yes — this is a specific area of expertise. Understanding how these conditions show up relationally and how to work with them in a couples context requires training that goes beyond general couples therapy. I'm trained in all three and work regularly with couples where one or both partners carry these diagnoses.
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Yes. ROCD is one of the most misunderstood dynamics in couples therapy and requires someone trained in both OCD treatment and couples work simultaneously. I work with individuals navigating ROCD and with couples where ROCD is part of the picture.
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Yes — research supports the effectiveness of virtual couples therapy and many couples find it more accessible and sustainable than in-person sessions. The work is the same; the format is just more flexible.
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I provide virtual couples therapy across Arizona, California, Colorado, Florida, Idaho, and South Carolina.
Specialized couples therapy is available — virtually, wherever you are.